Supporting young children through disruptive events

When floods, fires or pandemics strike, it’s common for children to experience emotional and behavioural difficulties. They may have trouble getting to sleep, wake in the night, and experience bad dreams or night terrors, Sharleen Keleher and Dr Andrea Baldwin write.

Following a disruptive event, they may eat more than usual, or not feel like eating. Many children find it harder to separate from their parents. Some children are more irritable than usual and have more tantrums, while others may become withdrawn and emotionally flat.

A common issue is temporarily delayed development, with some children seeming to regress or ‘go backwards’ in previously acquired skills like walking, toileting or language.

If children don’t get support to adjust to changes the event has brought, and to process their big feelings, the impacts can be long-lasting. We know from the Beyond Bushfires report that children separated from their parents during the devastating Black Saturday bushfires are still on average demonstrating significantly lower academic scores, over 10 years on, than their peers who didn’t experience separation.

Children growing up today are about seven times more likely to be exposed to a natural disaster than their grandparents’ generation. More frequent and severe natural disasters mean more communities are experiencing cumulative impacts from successive disasters.

The effects of natural disasters on communities are compounded when other major disruptive events, such as the COVID-19 pandemic, occur at the same time.

Children who have experienced adverse childhood events (ACEs) such as sexual abuse, family violence or the loss of a parent may be more at risk for negative mental health outcomes following a natural disaster.

COVID-19 unmasked

The COVID-19 Unmasked Young Child survey was completed by caregivers of young children (1-5 years) on four occasions between May 2020-May 2021. Key findings of this study include:

  • Most young children experienced some emotional and/or behavioural disruption, with those experiencing longer periods in lockdown showing more disruption
  • 30 per cent of young children experienced moderate to severe anxiety, which tended to increase as the pandemic wore on
  • Children were more at risk of mental health problems if: their primary caregiver had mental health issues prior to the pandemic; the child had lower emotion regulation skills prior to the pandemic; the primary caregiver was highly distressed; the family experienced a higher number of negative COVID-related events (for example, social isolation, financial stress, disrupted routines); the family scored highly on parenting rejection.

Resilience

The good news is that most children recover quickly from a natural disaster or disruptive event with the support of caring adults. Rather than thinking of resilience as a character trait, it’s helpful to consider the systems that support a child and think about how we can build more resilient communities and families.

One useful model for discussion of disaster resilience is the circle model of ‘Preparedness, Response and Recovery’. This model emphasises being mindful of building resilience before or in the absence of a disaster (preparedness), while the event is occurring (response), and in the period after it occurs (recovery). It requires a ‘when not if’ mindset, recognising that challenging events are part of life, and that getting through hard times with support from others can help individuals learn, grow and get stronger.

Building children’s resilience

Children growing up today are about seven times more likely to be exposed to a natural disaster than their grandparents’ generation.

Educators and teachers play an important role as trusted adults in children’s lives. Early learning settings need to provide a safe, structured, predictable environment where children feel comfortable, cared for and connected. In the context of disruptive events, this helps children develop resilience, cope with stress, and recover from disruption.

What helps?

Relationships

  • Supportive relationships in early childhood help protect against mental illness and a range of other negative outcomes in later life.
  • As their educator, it’s your supportive relationship with the child that helps them be resilient. Be compassionate, reassuring and understanding. You don’t need to have all the answers – you are the answer.

Provide safe spaces for children to process their experiences

  • Play is a way children express emotions and process experiences. Create safe, supportive spaces where they can do this.

Acknowledge and name feelings

  • Tune into the ‘big feelings’ the child is communicating through their behaviour, non-verbal and verbal cues.
  • Resist the urge to say “don’t be sad/angry/worried” to reassure the child. The child’s feelings are real, and they need to feel safe expressing them. Being told not to feel a particular way can seem like criticism. It may leave a child feeling shamed, dismissed or not listened to.

Conversational reading

  • Books like the Birdie’s Tree series can help children process their experience of specific natural disasters and disruptive events such as floods, fire and pandemic.
  • Use books about feelings to build children’s emotional literacy. Having a shared language with the adults who care for them helps children express and explore their feelings, which in turn builds emotional resilience.

Supporting educator wellbeing

  • Educators and their families have probably experienced the same natural disaster as the child. It’s important to take care of yourself and find ways to meet your own emotional needs, so you can support the children in your care. You can’t pour from an empty cup!

Practical strategies

  • Provide quiet spaces where children (and adults!) can retreat to. Set up a small tent or cubby with comfortable cushions, books, and other toys. Create a culture within your learning community that this space is respected as a place where children can go to have some quiet time.
  • Include opportunities for mindful movement during your day. A useful resource for this is Relaxing With Birdie, available as a print book, ebook or animation.
  • Communicate with families. Check in to see how things are going at home, for example, “I noticed Jimmy has been a little unsettled at outside play time recently. Have you noticed anything different at home?”


References

Birdie’s Tree
www.childrens.health.qld.gov.au/natural-disaster-recovery/

Conversational Reading video
youtu.be/9B1oKVBAuyY

Babies, young children and stressful events
youtu.be/ggOCATe4qD4

COVID-19 Unmasked
www.childrens.health.qld.gov.au/covid-19-unmasked/

Sharleen Keleher, Project Officer and Dr Andrea Baldwin, Service Development Officer, Queensland Centre for Perinatal and Infant Mental Health